Friday, January 31, 2025

D-Day 11: Sc/een.e from a Balcony 1-31-25 7:45am and a Farewell a la Carol Burnette


 It' s soggy, dark dank morning in the 'Burg today, cool 40 degrees. Miserable as it is, I'll take this any day over the alternative norm for this time of year.

On another front, this is my final day of employment as a licensed psychotherapist. Time to hang up the shingle and retire from striving. Time to relax into other pursuits! 
Also, tomorrow morning I delete my Meta account once and for all. I've had enough of being exploited by the trifecta of billionaire's greed for material gain. Not that I mind so much them making money of off my presence on their platform, but it's the idea that it's just one huge inescapable privacy breach. I'll stick with google as the allowable tyrant. As long as I have used it, I've not felt the impact of it having access to my whereabouts, except for an occasional easily ignorable targeting advertisement.
I'll be on Substack, Blogger and Youtube, and of course, for mindless scrolling and alternative personal perspective, I'll be hanging out on TikTok, another non-invasive time suck. Hope to see you around the bend ..... Namaste to all. 

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Sending Love and peace to all! 




Thursday, January 30, 2025

D-Day 10: Sc/een.e from a Balcony 1-30-25 7:30am


To look at this photo it's really hard to tell what season this is ... It's winter, of course, but you wouldn't know it had the weather not reported a temp of 35 degrees. I'll take it!

On the docket for today, is to complete the documents for the next employment as Concierge for the apartment complex. "One or two days per week" is acceptable for a guy in retirement who wants some responsibility, but not to be overwhelmed by the the pressures of continued 'becoming'. 

Thing #2, is to fill out the H &R Block tax info docs and get that out of the way. 

Next year's taxes will look very different, since I'll be down to Social Security, a pension and whatever I net from this new part time work. 

Tomorrow marks the final session as a psychotherapist, and the end of this chapter, ...WOW! when I think of the origin of this chapter, which started 16 years ago after returning from Gethsemane to assist with my mom's double knee replacement surgery rehab (at age 78), and how I became determined to train to become a licensed Therapist in PA, I have to shake my head at the sheer determination and focus embedded in pursuit of my last hurrah. 

What a journey it's been. What a life!

Wednesday, January 29, 2025

Harp Journsl #128

Harp Journal #128:  refining my arrangement of the classic Norwegian Wood. This is the final harp journal post I will enter on FB before deleting 

I’m super frustrated that my technical skills lack the ability to translate my ideas into a more ideal performance…. I guess all I can do is keep working at it. TBH, I am employing finger patterns and hand forms that are beyond me, but it is what it is 🤷🏽‍♂️💪🏽



D-Day 9: Sc/een.e from a Balcony 1-29-25 7:30am

 

Continuing the countdown to full retirement for my career as a psychotherapist. 3 more days!

I was out for a walk again this morning; nice, cool, clear atmosphere, 35 degrees.

What else? Yesterday, went northwest to Bellevue to scope out the potential volunteer spot, New Horizons (blog post yesterday). 

Also, stopped in at H&R Block to make contact to have my 2024 taxes filed. 

Today, I plan to continue to update this blog, fill out documents for the new Concierge position, prepare for tax return,  and see where my unplanned rambling leads.

 Always seems to be something thing on the 'to do' list, when all I want to do is to simply 'be'. 

Tuesday, January 28, 2025

I Wish I Had A River..... Joni Mitchell

River by Joni Mitchell                                             Pittsburgh Frozen Riven 

Its coming on christmas Theyre cutting down trees Theyre putting up reindeer And singing songs of joy and peace Oh I wish I had a river I could skate away on But it dont snow here It stays pretty green Im going to make a lot of money Then Im going to quit this crazy scene I wish I had a river I could skate away on I wish I had a river so long I would teach my feet to fly Oh I wish I had a river I could skate away on I made my baby cry He tried hard to help me You know, he put me at ease And he loved me so naughty Made me weak in the knees Oh I wish I had a river I could skate away on Im so hard to handle Im selfish and Im sad Now Ive gone and lost the best baby That I ever had Oh I wish I had a river I could skate away on I wish I had a river so long I would teach my feet to fly Oh I wish I had a river I made my baby say goodbye


River by Joni Mitchell





New potential role in retirement

New Role Pending

Last week I went on an expedition to scope out opportunities for volunteering my time post retirement.

Today, I went Northwest (20 minutes away by bus) to the New Horizons, a  drop-in center located in Bellevue offering advocacy services, peer support, a free nutritious lunch and many other mental health resources. 

Included in their palette of services are the following: 

  • Smoking Cessation
  • Alcoholics Anonymous
  • Spirituality Group
  • Walking Group
  • Advocacy Support ( such as WRAP Planning) (Wellness Recovery Action Plan)
Other options are on the horizon as well, including a possible part time (one or two shifts per week) Concierge position at my apartment complex. More info to come on that one, as they have sent an offer letter with the prospect of a start date on 2-15 for training. More details to come .... stay tuned. 

New Hor

D-Day 8: Sc/een.e from a Balcony 1-28-25 7:30am

 

    Just another atypical January day with temperatures in the mid 30's. In other news, today is the rest day of my weekend (Tuesday thru Thursday) and Friday marks the final day of employment in my field as a mental wellness therapist, as I will surrender my license, declining to renew as physical health decline mandates a reduction in attempts to continue "pushing the boulder up the hill"
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I began training for a career shift 15 years ago at the age of 57, when I returned to academia to pursue a new identity more aligned with my true values, my authentic self. My former career in music ministry no longer fit my ethics and I realized that working in a church with extreme bias, I could not support its bigotry and exclusive alignment with fundamentalist conservative values. 

I loved working with people, and considered music ministry to be 'social work', so shifting to a new identity and role as psychotherapist made sense. The use of people tools in the two realms: from one of suppressive conservative fundamentalism, to one that supported a liberation ideology. 

Between 2010 and 2015 I managed to complete a second Bachelor's (BSW in Social Work) and, graduated with a Masters in Professional Counseling, ultimately achieving all the requirements for Pennsylvania licensure.

I stopped tracking my journey in 2013 due to the sheer demand of working a full time job while going to school full time for 5 years, simultaneously holding another full-time job in social work as a geriatric case worker, additionally completing practicum requirements. All between the ages of 57 thru 62, and retiring from a 35 year career in church music in 2016. It was a lot! In retrospect I have no idea where I got the energy to do all that, and with accolades! 

The journey since then led to the field of psychotherapy, and it has been amazing realization of a dream. 

I'm hoping at this point to continue to fill in the blanks of what had not been documented, which will be a focus of time and attention as I cut from the usual social media form of self-expression at the end of this month, January 2025. 

Leaving the habit of scrolling mindlessly on Facebook and Instagram, virtually supporting the exploitation  of bazillionaire magnets of trump, bezos, zuckerberg and musk. I need to reduce my online footprint, which invariably targets anyone who engages with the internet system. After all, it's built on the presumption that one's data is never fully private, and thus open to advertisement targets.

So today's blog was meant to be more of a stream of consciousness ramble, and likely all future ones are destined to be since I'll have nothing but time on my hands, and I do like to use the tool of writing for creative expression; given our government structure is in the process of being dismantled, it's impossible to predict what the risks and protective factors are going into the next four years. 

TBC

Monday, January 27, 2025

D-Day 7: Sc/een.e from a Balcony 1-27-25 7:30am

 


Nice clear, crips 20 degrees today. I was out for a walk this morning and it was an invigorating experience.

Looking forward to enjoying this temporary respite the the cold before winter wakes up again and picks up where it left off. 

Sunday, January 26, 2025

Senior resources for LGBTQ+ in Allegheny County

 

Healthy Aging Toolkit

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Healthy aging?  Who wouldn’t want to stay healthy as they age?   Yet, one doesn’t have to search far to hear about age-related challenges.  Research shows that more than a third of older Americans report having some difficulty with living independently, walking, self-care, hearing, memory, or vision.


While sobering, these statistics do not tell the whole story.  In fact, ageism, myths, and misconceptions have led many to believe that deterioration in old age is inevitable.   Yet many challenges, often thought to be normal in aging, are treatable or preventable. 


Intended as an orientation, this toolbox offers links to resources and practical steps to help all of us achieve good health as we age.


Body

Even today, many people associate decline and deterioration as inevitable aspects of aging.  Yet, some characteristics—often mistakenly attributed to aging like fatigue, confusion, and frailty—may in fact be symptoms of treatable medical conditions.  Infections and dehydration, for example, are common causes of confusion.  Frailty, characterized by unintentional weight loss, may stem from Parkinson’s disease, cancer, or colitis; and fatigue is symptomatic of depression, high blood pressure, and heart disease.  While people of all ages and orientations benefit from receiving regular medical check-ups, doing so is especially important for LGBT elders, who run higher risks for certain diseases including breast cancer for lesbians, HIV for gay men, and heart disease for all LGBT elders.  LGBT elders concerned about sharing their sexual orientation with medical professionals may benefit from visiting LGBT-friendly physicians and clinics. 

Good nutrition and exercise also can protect elders from disease and decline.  Studies show older adults who exercise regularly may improve their ability to age independently, reduce their risk of falls, elevate their mood, and lower their risk of developing certain diseases.  In terms of “real life,” the National Institute on Aging notes that exercise may “make it easier to stand on tip toe to reach something on the top shelf…bend down to tie your shoes…[and] carry in groceries from the car.”  Healthy eating may reduce the risk of bone loss, stroke, heart disease, and certain cancers; as well as improve energy levels throughout the day.


Mind

As with misconceptions about healthy aging, misunderstandings about elder memory loss and mood abound.  While minor changes in the rate at which older brains learn and retrieve new information is not uncommon with aging, major memory changes (including failure to recognize loved ones, getting lost in familiar places, and confusion between day and night) should cause concern.  Dozens of medical conditions can cause memory loss.  “Dementia” causing diseases, like Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s, are permanent and progressive, though in some cases medication may slow progression.  Other medical conditions (including infections, vitamin deficiencies, dehydration, and medication interactions) can cause what’s known as “delirium.”  Timely treatment of delirium can improve memory functioning.  A geriatrician or neurologist can help identify specific causes of memory loss. 

Memory loss also can be caused by changes in mood, like depression and anxiety.  Due to decades of discrimination, LGBT elders are at greater risk of these mood disorders.  No longer seen as strictly psychological conditions, depression and anxiety have been linked to treatable changes in the body.  Many anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medications exist.  A physician can help choose the one that works best for their patient.  Non-medication treatment, like counseling or talk-therapy, also has been shown to be effective.

Research also indicates that LGBT individuals have higher risks of alcoholism.  While harmful to people of all ages, excessive alcohol consumption may be especially dangerous for older adults.  Normal changes in the body, along with disease and medication interactions increase elders risk for falls, worsening health, and death.


Sexuality and Intimacy

Misconceptions also exist about sexuality and aging.  One of the biggest myths is that older adults are not interested in sex, or for whatever reason should not have sex.  The desire for sex and intimacy continues even as people age; and a satisfying sex life has been associated with healthy aging.  Still, normal changes in the body, as well as illness and medications may necessitate modifications in the process.  Safe sex also should be practiced, especially when one is with a new partner.


Spirit and Community

Research suggests that older adults who engage with others in enjoyable activities, or otherwise have a feeling of purpose, live longer and healthier lives.  Like all older adults, LGBT elders find purpose via a variety of paths.  Some find it through faith and spirituality; others through creativity; and still others from volunteering, activism, or social engagement.  LGBT elders seeking new ways to engage or re-engage may find the following resources helpful.

Thanks to ageism and aging myths, many people in our society have a fatalistic view of getting older.  However, the truth is more complex.  Learning the truth about aging, and taking practical steps to reduce our risk of illness, may help each of us live longer, healthier, and more satisfying lives.