A Long Overdue Get-Together .... after 10 (?) years we're all in the same room --- just us

 

Sc/een.e from a Balcony 2-27-25 8am

It's been overcast the past several days but the upside is that the weather, while kinda' rainy, has been between 40 and 50 degrees. A nice promise of Spring ..... time for a little Springdance! 

Springdance (audio file)

Springdance is the first song I wrote following my exit from a marriage that didn't work out as planned. However, the unintended consequences are apparent in the pride I feel of having produced 3 amazing offspring that 'seem' to have turned out "A-OK" in spite of being exposed to the trauma of divorce. 

We had an opportunity yesterday to get together for a blanket celebration of birthdays, retirement, employment ... all the fun things ... over a shared meal. This is the first time were had been together all in the same room, just us, at the same time for probably 10 years ..... maybe longer --- since Isaac was born and we all got together in the Brookline Chelton house around 2015. Here is the current state of affairs: 

A stark contrast from a much earlier version of one of our previous group phots from circa 1985 seen below

. It's unfortunate that the marriage ended in divorce, but it was for the best interest of everyone involved that we were able to do 'the right thing', reducing the impact of the potential collateral damage inherent in exposing these people to poor relational modeling. Of course, the majority of us availed ourselves of the support of therapy along the way, but early life trauma can never truly be fully erased; still 'accepting the things we cannot change' was a huge part of the recovery process for each of us. 

Of course the choice we made to marry was, in retrospect, ill-advised, but I will state that never once did I regret that my offspring came into being. Their births, their lives have been the source of my motivation to live.